28 December 2011

life

"we don't have to change our whole way of life,
just our attitude towards it..."


27 December 2011

great full

some seasonal gratitude...

* for a fun Xmas day, with all the kids, in great form...

* for a wonderfully powerful insight - i still look too much for others to make me happy, and perfection from myself...

* oma & opa {my mum & dad) make Boxing day that bit more groovy... Pops, my mum and I had a lovely walk in the woods, the boys appeared to have a whale of a time together...

* hamsters - though they make terrible room mates at night...

* bbc-tv... we love to watch telly on Xmas evenings, and bbc does the job for us... Dr. Who, Eastenders, the borrowers, Narnia, Merlin, Xmas specials for various series... All we need is a bag of crisps & enough blankets to cover us all...


26 December 2011

extra

extra sunday
not sure what to do with it
apart from relax a bit
have another coffee
and listen to this:
{my song of the year....}


22 December 2011

yule tidings

today, on the shortest day of the year,
we can celebrate the pagan Yuletide, 
but christianity has told us
that we'll have to wait until december 25th... 

Done with that one...

Happy Yuletide, all here!!!

 {read some more here - groovy stuff...}

21 December 2011

thankful hearts

one of the many things i like to do at Christmas is watching films...
There's plenty around, and as i took a glance in the tv guide, i noticed how many have been picked, again... films that come back every year, from rubbishy cash-ins to really quite profound, and the silly ones that try to do tongue in cheek, but do get carried away with the Xmas spirit any way... Then there were the ones that didn't have a specific Xmas theme, but fitted nicely in the list, cos they were 'just' feel-good, and that works pretty well this time of year...

Our family fave is the Muppet Christmas Carol.
Had to buy it on dvd, as we kept missing it, or it kept being interrupted by commercials {which really gets my goat...}, so now we can pick a good time {when Mr G is out of the house) and watch it without disruptions. We know the story back to front, but still - we'll love it, and we'll laugh out loud, and we'll cry, and we'll be sad that it's finished again...

The film is a great measure for the divide in our house - the ones that hate it (Mr G and oldest) can't be doing with the cheerfulness of it, don't believe the message of love and happiness, think it's far too naive and romantic, when all those things are why the rest of us love it... Well, i do, anyway...

So: what's your favourite? Is there a film you watch time and time again at Xmas?

- cast of Muppet Christmas Carol -
top right: Fozzie Bear 

20 December 2011

leaving the headless chicken

your inner voice will tell you 
the next step you should take...

- picture by claude monet -

Every morning when i wake up and visit the little girls room (even though there's more boys in our house...) i am confronted with a pearl of wisdom, as proclaimed by our daily tear-off spiritual calendar. Most of them i'm familiar with by now, they're in the same vain as a lot of the things i've read on Buddhism so far... some make me think, or get my hair on end (like yesterday's post), while others seem a bit far fetched... This one made me smile...

i'm starting to get familiar with my inner voice... my real inner voice, that is... not the panicky one that had me running around like the famous Headless Chicken, as it tended to react to stuff it was scared of... This one is a calm, peaceful, wise voice, that tells me where to look for things, or what to do next... It tells me i'm okay, and that things will really be fine... Things are already fine...

My friend Mo and i had a chat a while back, trying to work out how to find this voice, when it was over-shouted by our family's voice, or that of our 'friends' or neighbours, or the media... How on earth do you know which one to listen to?! How do we know when the panicky one is right? We both concluded that it all came down to 'knowing' and 'feeling' and 'trust'... When you spend more time alone, really alone {going for a walk, sitting down & staring into space, away form telly, computer, activity, other people}, you start giving your inner voice the space to 'talk' to you... And when you've let yourself be guided by that voice, you start to know, feel, trust when it's there... Once you've learnt to stop your Scared Voice, the False one, to over-shout, of course... Leave the Headless Chicken far behind...

here's some great tips... 
and Kati's written about it too, though in dutch...

19 December 2011

remedial teachings

{lifted form my old english blog...}

sometimes i read stuff in my Buddhist texts that baffle me, or get my  back up at first.
Someone once said that Eastern and Western cultures are too different for something like Buddhism to really work here. Times like this i get what he means... We've learnt such different values and ways of behaving that it feels we're a million miles removed from being able to achieve inner peace...

the best remedy against sadness is detachment

it said on our Buddhist tear-off calender.
Right now i'm in the middle of detaching myself, letting go of a lot of baggage, things that keep dragging me down, but there's a limit to even that. From a very young age we've been tought to attach to just about everything - toys, cuddlies, mum, dad, whatever we've learnt to give us comfort or what we think of as love. Tricky to let go of all that... But great when it's achieved - a weight off your shoulders...
But to let go of sadness....

Can you really never feel sadness, or pain, or frustration? Should you? Wouldn't life be flat and well, boring?
maybe this text should be put a little differently...

the best remedy against lasting sadness is detaching from the feeling,
letting it go again...


sadness can't be avoided, but hanging on to it because we're scared of what's coming, can... 

trying out...

as time goes by, there seems to be a need in me 
to be a little more specific about what i post.
so here's the first op hopefully many, 
to maybe get my head sorted, 
or just to have a place to  contempate 
out loud....

bear with me, 
it might not be much very often...